A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life, but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit. A man finds joy in giving an apt reply—-and how good is a timely word! (Proverbs 15:1, 4, 23)

Good communication is at the heart of good human relationships. This is especially true of family relationships. These verses celebrate gentleness, encouragement, and appropriateness in verbal communication. Honesty in speech is contrasted with using humor that hurts.

Open confrontation is described as better than refusal to care enough to face issues. The inspired writer recognized nonverbal communication is showing feelings. In our dealing with family, we should always strive to be honest, open and truthful, but in begins in the home with family and then moves outwardly from that point.


Precious Abba, communication with You is always important, even though You know our hearts and minds before we even come before you in prayer. In family communications, as in all human interpersonal communications, clarity and truthfulness is essential in all matters and issues in our lives. All this we pray in Jesus’ precious name. Amen.


Jesus is a friend that knows our faults but loves us anyway.


He who tends a fig tree will eat its fruit, and he who looks after his master will be honored. As water reflects a face, so a man’s hear reflects the man.” (Proverbs 26:18-19)

As stated in Chapter 15, we see in these verses the simple statement is that if we are not truthful, honest, and open. Making jokes at another’s expense shows foolishness. Playing on another’s emotions and intentions is dishonest and malicious. We need to find better way to gain attention, for these actions tend to demean the other persons, or at the very least make them look inept or incapable of treating others with honesty, truthfulness and openness. Furthermore, it makes those who resort to these types of actions to be of low character and not trustworthy.


Instead speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ. Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body. Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that is may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage, and anger, brawling, and slander, along with every form of malice.” (Ephesians4:15, 25, 19-37)

Even though addressed to the church as the family of God, these verses apply equally well to family relationships in the home. Honesty and helpfulness are encouraged, whereas lying, slander, and rage are condemned. The word structure in verse 30 suggest that unwholesome language grieves the Holy Spirit, who is present in the church or home at all times. Clear enough/

Second Thought of the Day:

“But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips. Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator.” (Colossians3:810)

A person ruled by Christ and led by the Spirit will put away speech patterns reflecting anger and defamation of others’ character. Language which is less than clean and pure in tone and content should not come from a Christian’s mouth. The image of God which had been marred by human sin is being renewed through Christ Jesus, who is the image of God. In salvation we are becoming like Christ.

The new image is renewed in the knowledge which God gives rather than in a rebellious search for knowledge church He did not reveal. This new image overcomes those things such as race or religious rites which have separated us from one another. Christ become the only focus of attention. All else is forgiven. The spiritual work of God in human hearts is the climactic phase of what God began to do in creating he physical universe and bring life into existence on earth.

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